Lily M. Cooper
Affairs are a hot topic on many couples’s lists. Many people have at one time or another been caught in an affair. Whether it was a serious affair like cheating, or a more light-hearted affair, it’s almost always a blow to the person who had the affair and the relationship.
The question is, what do I do now?
An affair is a romantic relationship, often romantic friendship, or fling, involving two individuals where at least one of them has such a relationship with another person, either informally or in a more formal setting such as marriage. If one of the participants has an Affair, it is considered adultery. While every affair is different, affairs are usually broken up by the partner who was the victim of the infidelity. Sometimes, the victims of infidelity don’t even know that their partner has had an affair, and they live happily ever after.
- The first step to take after being caught in an Affair is to end the relationship.
- No matter how hurtful, humiliating, and painful the Affair is, you must stop the relationship and end it for your own good.
- Do not contact the other person, and inform any friends or family members that you are now living together as a couple.
- If this is difficult for you to do, then consider getting professional help, either through a counselor a therapist, or support group.
- If you decide to go this route, be sure to find someone who is open and honest with you, can relate to your situation, and will not make unwanted comments about your sexuality or your ability to find someone else if you choose to stay with him/her.
When the dust settles; it can be difficult to understand where you stand. If you are an Affair Whiplash victim, the only thing you can count on is your instinct. If there is another person involved in this infidelity, it can be devastating. But, it doesn’t have to destroy your life or your marriage. You deserve a second chance.
If you are the Affair Whiplash victim; you may have issues with guilt and regret. The best thing you can do for yourself at this point, is to forgive yourself. Grieve the harm that was done to you, but take comfort in knowing that even though someone else was involved, you are still whole and complete as a human being.
Keep in mind that even if the other person has gotten over Affair A, they are still a part of your life. They may treat you different now, but they still have feelings for you. This does not mean that they are perfect, just that they were human and made mistakes. You have to move on and let time heal all wounds, as they say.
