Lily M. Cooper
Many people have no idea how to slide into DMs successfully. Remember, a good, direct message is an unsolicited offer. He or she did not ask you for permission to contact you and they definitely do not owe you anything in return.
So, if you wish to really stand out in a sea of incessant direct mails and get a good response: here is how to slide into DMs with confidence: without being creepy. A true compliment only comes when the receiver has earned a right. Never initiate a contact with a subject who has not earned permission to contact you in that way. A lot of people take the easy way out by sending creepy or even embarrassing messages in hopes that they will receive some kind of response from the other person. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The key to a successful move is to keep your message as lighthearted as possible: If you are not sure how to slide into a DMs properly, try this: instead of starting off with “How may I help you?” or “Dear Sir/Madam,” start off with something more casual, like “Hello, nice to meet you.” A simple smile goes a long way, as does a “Cheers!” if the other person is on your social media list. A few simple phrases will go a long way in setting the tone for the rest of your conversation.
Another issue with people who try to “slide into a DMS” is that they often respond negatively: They might mention something about you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. Instead of responding to that comment in an angry manner, find something you can say in response that is a little lighter and more positive; a compliment can do wonders in starting a conversation back on track.
If you do not know how to respond to a question on a social media site, don’t get one: Try to prepare ahead of time by checking out the options available to you on the site and then practicing saying the appropriate thing. Most popular DMS sites allow you to type in “compliments” or “cheers” instead of “dear.” Try using these instead of getting upset when someone mentions something about you. It will not only help you relax during the actual conversation, but it will leave a much better impression when it comes time for the real thing.
The most important thing to remember: when learning how to slide into a DMS is to keep your communication light and happy. If you come across as overly rude or abusive, it will definitely come across as a big turnoff for everyone. Instead, be friendly, polite, and helpful. Offer up opinions or tips to the person you are talking to and then point them to the website, your friend is on.
This will help you get one step closer to slipping into DMS chat room etiquette.
